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Sandra de Helen's avatar

I hope your fingers are not crossed HOPING for a collapse... I can't tell from the sentence.

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

No, I am not hoping for a collapse. That’s not a thing I’d like to live through.

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M. Louisa Locke's avatar

Such a wonderful letter to your young self. Thanks for sharing.

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Thanks!

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Kaspa Thompson (they/them)'s avatar

Such a touching letter x

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Thanks, Kaspa!

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Adrian Neibauer's avatar

What a great idea to write a letter to your teenage self! I have my students write a letter to incoming 4th graders, giving them some advice about being a 5th grader. I never thought about writing a letter to myself as a teenager.

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Yeah, I've seen other people do letters to their younger selves. The idea just popped into my head yesterday during a walk (where all good ideas come from). I thought how disappointed teenage-me would be in so many things, but how wrong she would be in a lot of ways. In other words, the things I wanted from life weren't the things I actually needed. They weren't the things that would actually bring me happiness.

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Teri Adams's avatar

I love the way you executed this idea! I always wanted to be interviewed by Johnny Carson, too. I cried while watching his last show.

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Thanks, Teri. I had a little black and white TV in my bedroom on which I was allowed to stay up late enough to watch The Tonight Show, right after the local news and commentary by, get this, Jerry Springer, who was a local news anchor in Cincinnati after having been the mayor. What a childhood!

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Teri Adams's avatar

I had a pretty nice color tv in my bedroom; my mother liked me not messing up the living room and I could watch tv in my room that way. I shed skin.

I wasn’t supposed to stay up late (Carson started at 11:30pm), so I would watch it with the sound turned down to where I could barely hear it.

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David J. Brown's avatar

Robyn, this is amazing. Wonderful and funny and revelatory and vulnerable all at once. I laughed out loud more than once. And I also went back and read it more than once. Thank you.

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Thanks so much, David. It was super fun to write and one of those things I should go back and read myself when I’m feeling blue. A reminder to be thankful for the life that my teenage self didn’t want!

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Karen Davis's avatar

This is just so so so good. I love it.

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Thanks, Karen!

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Elizabeth Marro's avatar

This was a terrific way to learn more about you. I admire teenage Robyn and Now-Robyn immensely. It's got me thinking about what I would say to my own teenage self ...

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Thank, Betsy. I highly recommend it. It was a very satisfying exercise, to think about that younger version of myself with compassion and bemusement. The bangs alone! And I was so invested in making them stick up as far as possible. It was the height of accomplishment for all the young women at my high school.

I guess, also, it’s a kind of re-parenting. Taking that teenage version of myself who’s still inside me and telling her it’s all going to be okay.

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Don Boivin's avatar

I loved this, Robyn!!

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Thanks, Don.

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Sandy's avatar

You're brave.

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Thanks, Sandy.

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Barbara Shoup's avatar

LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS!

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Thanks, Barb!

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Barbara Shoup's avatar

Also, in case you wonder, I stopped getting your Substack emails so resubscribed.

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

That’s weird, but not surprising. Other people have said the same and sometimes I don’t get emails from letters I’ve subscribed to and I have no idea why the hell that happens and feel like maybe my life is too short to spend a lot of time figuring it out. But I’m glad you resubscribed!

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annroahrig@gmail.com's avatar

A Letter to Teenage Ann could be summed up in the verbiage written on a button, I sometimes wear, but is usually stuck on my refrigerator door….

It reads:

“I Have Survived Damn Near Every thing.”

I really enjoyed riding along with Teenage Robyn!

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

You have survived damn near everything and you're still a beautiful, sparkling human being!

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annroahrig@gmail.com's avatar

awww, gawrrshhh, Thanx Robyn….☺️

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