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Love this! I'm on Twitter (x) myself. I have been on it since 2009, lol. I get it the harassment thing is unnerving. An ex's new gf came hard at me, told me to off myself-- I retweeted it to the mass of followers I had on the account I was using and let them handle it. I considered the source... but she is now in my memoir looking pretty ugly herself but of course her name has been changed. Still, there's sick people out there. All this too after he had broken her arm... like, what?!? Sick.

Anyways, I say no a lot to what I don't want to do and what I don't feel comfortable with. It takes practice but soon I can't stop lol. I hope and I do believe that's a good thing! ♥️😊

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Yikes, that is some harsh stuff. I do not and will never understand people being mean to each other online. And happy not to understand that.

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I don't get it either. I don't get why she hated me in the first place-- I never had spoken to her lol. I just ignore dumb stuff and people that create drama. I get picked at sometimes by people and I choose to ignore it. I am a very nice person and I worked really hard to get where I am in my self esteem and my self love-- I won't let anyone tear me down or take away from my work I did to get here. What people think of me is none of my business.

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A big Yes to saying No. also, thank you for the warning, because I’ve never been asked for my opinion, but now I will think twice before offering it if that ever occurs. Brilliant. I was so unsettled the day of the eclipse! Weird things were happening and I was getting weird vibes from a lot of people. I swear everyone at work was losing their mind. All kinds of issues were being escalated and blown up, and as soon as the eclipse was over, everything settled down. So you weren’t the only one that was anxious. in relation to footnote number one, my therapist just told me that the saying, “ Jack of all trades and master of none” is incomplete! The actual saying from William Shakespeare, “ Jack of all trades and master, but maybe better than master of one.” I actually don’t think that someone who has focused entirely on one subject for 20 years is necessarily more of an expert than someone who has brought in other perspectives and other things into their world that will ultimately shape what they think about that one thing. (I do think they are more of an expert than the person who’s decided to claim expert on social media because they have experienced something themselves for one year from one perspective.)

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In my experience, you have very little control when a reporter asks you for a quote over how it's used or what the actual article ends up saying. That always makes me nervous.

Yes! It's like there was so much hype about the eclipse that everyone was sort of losing their minds and so much pressure about watching it and watching it in the right way and at the right place and it was all sort of exhausting. I was so relieved when it was over, I have to say.

That's a really good point about expertise. There's certainly no way I could study the same very narrow subject for 20 years. There's too many other things that are interesting in the world. And I've always thought of creativity as the ability to make connections, which is hard to do if you're so narrowly focused.

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Well said. I feel the same way.

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The eclipse wore me out!! You are not alone

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Oh, good to know. I felt very left-out of the whole existentially uplifting spiritual experience narrative.

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You do you. Self care is so important. If that means saying no, say no shamelessly - you don’t owe anyone anything x

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Thanks, Loretta!

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